Decision making is my nemesis. Some are easy, but for most, I almost wish the decision was made for me. I think that’s why editing is so hard, too: is this the right word to convey the exact meaning without overuse…
Decision making is my nemesis. Small ones are easy, but some I wish could be made for me. It’s probably why editing is so difficult, too. It’s just one tiny decision after another. Right word? Meaning conveyed smoothly? Did I overuse that? Can I say it more smoothly?
Ugh! I can agonize over the smallest thing FOREVER. So when I do decide, I like to ACT right away. Otherwise, I’m likely to start reconsidering and I’ll end up going through the whole thing again!
I used to be more impulsive, but I’m trying to learn to think things through before jumping in. It doesn’t feel like I’m getting anywhere, though. Just feels like I’m procrastinating.
With an ISTJ personality type, I am forced to be a decision maker—indecisiveness stresses me out! However, my personality type doesn’t allow me to make decisions on an emotional or knee-jerk basis. I need facts, processes, procedures, precedents—and a good idea of what the outcome of each possibility will be. So while it may seem that I’m indecisive or have trouble making decisions, it’s actually that I’m just taking the time go gather all the facts and weigh all the options.
Opryland! It doesn’t exist anymore (there’s a mall there now), but it’s the only amusement park I was taken to as a kid and then chose to go back to as an adult—the year I moved to Nashville, which is the year before it closed.
I think it was a Young tallent Time one it was a group of kids who were part of a childrens variety show. But I just remembered it was a single and it was actually Filex the Cat. I think the first LP other than the young talent time ones was Bay City Rollers.
Yes my friends thought they would be clever and throw me a 21st surprise party. Invited me for tea a day or so before I think it was and when I got there there SIL was there too and they had organised a party tea. The joke was on them as I am about 10 days older than my friend not a year and 10 days so she got the year wrong. It was a fun night.
Yes! It was pretty low-key, but on my 30th birthday it was about dinner time and we had no food in the house. My husband asked me if I was ok with pizza, so I was sitting upstairs on my computer looking at the menu for a new “specialty” pizza place and reading off possibilities to him, and getting a little annoyed because he didn’t seem to be paying attention, when the doorbell rang. He went down to answer it, and a minute later I heard him call out “honey could you come down here?” I went down and almost my entire family (my parents and 8 of my 9 siblings with their assorted spouses AND little tiny kids) were standing in the living room and started singing happy birthday. They’d parked down the street and walked so I wouldn’t see the headlights, and I still have no idea how they all got into the living room so silently with 2 or 3 babies in the group. It was a TOTAL surprise. The funniest thing is that we’d been at my parents’ house earlier that day, and I SAW the cake in my mom’s cake-taker sitting on top of the fridge and almost asked what it was for, but it never even entered my mind that it might be for me. Also, I mentioned to Jeff after we left their house that my mom had said “happy birthday,” but it was weird that she hadn’t given me even a card much less a present because that just wasn’t like her.
For my sixteenth birthday (which fell on a Sunday), my two BFFs (Wade and Wendy) arrived at my house at 5:30 a.m. and got me out of the bed. They drove me up to the Mesa on the west side of Las Cruces, and we had breakfast (donuts and muffins washed down with Dr. Pepper) while we watched the sun rise. That was the year we did surprises like that for each of our birthdays, trying to be as creative as possible.
It’s a way to pass time if you’re really bored. There’s always that slight chance that you end up with the move that sets up the guaranteed win. Personally, I prefer Spider Solitaire.
Late summer 2005. My husband and b-i-l and I went to New York, not knowing that subways aren’t exactly wheelchair friendly – nice 2″ gap between platform and car and most stops have only stairs…
this morning! i commute to work here in toronto by subway every morning! which means that when i travel i love checking out the subway systems to compare! london, uk has a great one, loved montreal’s and vienna’s is on the honour system. found the NYC subway way too filthy i remember writing to the toronto transit after a trip to boston to point out that they flashed signs telling you what doors to go through
Same for me, Lori. The last time was the DC Metro in 1995 when I still lived in Northern Virginia. In fact, it’s the only subway system I’ve ever experienced.
I draw pictures a lot, but the last time I colored in a coloring book…. um, I had one in college and used to color sometimes for a stress-break that was a while ago!
In Rome at the end of March. It was SO crowded I literally couldn’t push my way on! And my husband was already on and didn’t know where we were going… I was so worried the doors would close and he wouldn’t know where to get off and I’d never find him (we didn’t have our phones because they’re Verizon and don’t work in Europe). Luckily though, he and another guy somehow managed to PULL me onto the train before it left.
Last time I colored without a niece or nephew was probably 10–12 years ago. For stress relief when I was working full time and in college part time, I bought a coloring book and a huge box of crayons. Drawing, I’ve done much more recently—I have a sketchbook in which I sketch images of my characters when I have severe writer’s block.
Hi Kaye, I think I remember you saying once that one reason you’re not a huge fan of books written in first-person is that when the hero/ heroine is in a dicey situation you always know they’re going to “make it” – they have to, they lived to tell the story! Well I thought of that recently because I just read a book that was written in first person where the narrator DIDN’T make it! They kicked the bucket near the and another narrator took over for the remaining couple chapters. Very unexpected but it actually did work. (If it wasn’t you who said that about first person narrators always living to tell the tale, it’s still kinda interesting.)
No. I really don’t want to hear this… lol
A friend told me this before, but then an editor just rolled his eyes at the sentiment. Guess it depends who you ask.
Do you feel angry at the author if they kill the person you’ve come to care for? I read an Angela Hunt book where this happened. Though I loved the story, I felt the loss almost ruined the experience. Like a real-world happily ever after as opposed to the one we really want.
I’ve read a few books where a character’s death really bothered me. One of them was a series (that’s still being added to) where one of the main and well-loved characters was killed off at the end of the 13th book in the series! Talk about losing a character you’re attached to. I do understand why she did it – and as a way to keep throwing her poor characters into difficult situations, it was probably a good decision, but I’m not sure I’ve gotten over it yet
It is one of the few channels I still get (now that I’m on broadcast-only, no longer paying for cable)—however, I have the first six seasons on DVD, so I can marathon whenever I want, and without commercials! (Of course, this weekend, I’ll be working on the revisions/edits to Follow the Heart, so dear TG will have to wait . . .)
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Are you a quick decision maker, or do you need to take your time and think through all possibilities?
Decision making is my nemesis. Some are easy, but for most, I almost wish the decision was made for me. I think that’s why editing is so hard, too: is this the right word to convey the exact meaning without overuse…
Decision making is my nemesis. Small ones are easy, but some I wish could be made for me. It’s probably why editing is so difficult, too. It’s just one tiny decision after another. Right word? Meaning conveyed smoothly? Did I overuse that? Can I say it more smoothly?
In most things I would take my time to work out the best possible course.
Ugh! I can agonize over the smallest thing FOREVER. So when I do decide, I like to ACT right away. Otherwise, I’m likely to start reconsidering and I’ll end up going through the whole thing again!
I used to be more impulsive, but I’m trying to learn to think things through before jumping in. It doesn’t feel like I’m getting anywhere, though. Just feels like I’m procrastinating.
With an ISTJ personality type, I am forced to be a decision maker—indecisiveness stresses me out! However, my personality type doesn’t allow me to make decisions on an emotional or knee-jerk basis. I need facts, processes, procedures, precedents—and a good idea of what the outcome of each possibility will be. So while it may seem that I’m indecisive or have trouble making decisions, it’s actually that I’m just taking the time go gather all the facts and weigh all the options.
What’s your favorite amusement park?
Epcot.
King’s Island
Haven’t been to alot but I like Dreamworld on the Gold coast.
Magic Kingdom–Childhood memories are revisited every trip.
King’s Island–very close to home.
Cedar Point!
Opryland! It doesn’t exist anymore (there’s a mall there now), but it’s the only amusement park I was taken to as a kid and then chose to go back to as an adult—the year I moved to Nashville, which is the year before it closed.
What is the first album/cassette/CD you ever bought as a kid/teen with your own money?
Probably something from the New Kids on the Block.
I think it was a Young tallent Time one it was a group of kids who were part of a childrens variety show. But I just remembered it was a single and it was actually Filex the Cat. I think the first LP other than the young talent time ones was Bay City Rollers.
Wilson Philips ~ still love ‘em.
Probably Jack Wagner. Too long ago to remember
Probably a Donny Osmond album
1983—Air Supply “Greatest Hits” http://tinyurl.com/7lkftrv
Oh, and it was a cassette?
Has anyone ever thrown you a surprise birthday party?
My mom tried to once, but no one could come. It was the one year my birthday fell on Easter Sunday.
LOL, no! Laughing because today is my birthday.
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday =)
Happy Birthday. It appears Kay threw you a surprise party.
Happy Birthday, Michelle!
Firstly Happy Birthday Michelle.
Yes my friends thought they would be clever and throw me a 21st surprise party. Invited me for tea a day or so before I think it was and when I got there there SIL was there too and they had organised a party tea. The joke was on them as I am about 10 days older than my friend not a year and 10 days so she got the year wrong. It was a fun night.
Yes! It was pretty low-key, but on my 30th birthday it was about dinner time and we had no food in the house. My husband asked me if I was ok with pizza, so I was sitting upstairs on my computer looking at the menu for a new “specialty” pizza place and reading off possibilities to him, and getting a little annoyed because he didn’t seem to be paying attention, when the doorbell rang. He went down to answer it, and a minute later I heard him call out “honey could you come down here?” I went down and almost my entire family (my parents and 8 of my 9 siblings with their assorted spouses AND little tiny kids) were standing in the living room and started singing happy birthday. They’d parked down the street and walked so I wouldn’t see the headlights, and I still have no idea how they all got into the living room so silently with 2 or 3 babies in the group. It was a TOTAL surprise. The funniest thing is that we’d been at my parents’ house earlier that day, and I SAW the cake in my mom’s cake-taker sitting on top of the fridge and almost asked what it was for, but it never even entered my mind that it might be for me. Also, I mentioned to Jeff after we left their house that my mom had said “happy birthday,” but it was weird that she hadn’t given me even a card much less a present because that just wasn’t like her.
For my sixteenth birthday (which fell on a Sunday), my two BFFs (Wade and Wendy) arrived at my house at 5:30 a.m. and got me out of the bed. They drove me up to the Mesa on the west side of Las Cruces, and we had breakfast (donuts and muffins washed down with Dr. Pepper) while we watched the sun rise. That was the year we did surprises like that for each of our birthdays, trying to be as creative as possible.
What is your favorite crayon color?
Midnight blue.
right now I would say royal blue.
Is Tic-Tac-Toe a fun game or a waste of time?
It’s a way to pass time if you’re really bored. There’s always that slight chance that you end up with the move that sets up the guaranteed win. Personally, I prefer Spider Solitaire.
in school it was fun and with kids its fun.
Waste of time – nobody ever wins!
What was the last time you were on a subway?
Late summer 2005. My husband and b-i-l and I went to New York, not knowing that subways aren’t exactly wheelchair friendly – nice 2″ gap between platform and car and most stops have only stairs…
In Melbourne probably 2 and a half years ago.
this morning! i commute to work here in toronto by subway every morning! which means that when i travel i love checking out the subway systems to compare! london, uk has a great one, loved montreal’s and vienna’s is on the honour system. found the NYC subway way too filthy
i remember writing to the toronto transit after a trip to boston to point out that they flashed signs telling you what doors to go through
Twenty or so years ago, when I lived in the DC Metro area.
Same for me, Lori. The last time was the DC Metro in 1995 when I still lived in Northern Virginia. In fact, it’s the only subway system I’ve ever experienced.
When is the last time you colored in a coloring book or drew a picture—without a child being present?
It’s been a few years. I used to draw really pretty sunsets.
I draw pictures a lot, but the last time I colored in a coloring book…. um, I had one in college and used to color sometimes for a stress-break
that was a while ago!
In Rome at the end of March. It was SO crowded I literally couldn’t push my way on! And my husband was already on and didn’t know where we were going… I was so worried the doors would close and he wouldn’t know where to get off and I’d never find him (we didn’t have our phones because they’re Verizon and don’t work in Europe). Luckily though, he and another guy somehow managed to PULL me onto the train before it left.
rats, this was supposed to go on the subway question…
Last time I colored without a niece or nephew was probably 10–12 years ago. For stress relief when I was working full time and in college part time, I bought a coloring book and a huge box of crayons. Drawing, I’ve done much more recently—I have a sketchbook in which I sketch images of my characters when I have severe writer’s block.
Other than black or white, what color do you wear most often?
Blue.
Purple
In winter I have more red sweaters and in summer I would wear more blues.
in summer, I wear a lot of tops in the magenta/ purple range
Green or brown.
I just stopped by Adina’s newsletter to check you out. I know I have been to your site before but it has been sometime.
Hi Kaye, I think I remember you saying once that one reason you’re not a huge fan of books written in first-person is that when the hero/ heroine is in a dicey situation you always know they’re going to “make it” – they have to, they lived to tell the story! Well I thought of that recently because I just read a book that was written in first person where the narrator DIDN’T make it! They kicked the bucket near the and another narrator took over for the remaining couple chapters. Very unexpected but it actually did work. (If it wasn’t you who said that about first person narrators always living to tell the tale, it’s still kinda interesting.)
No. I really don’t want to hear this… lol
A friend told me this before, but then an editor just rolled his eyes at the sentiment. Guess it depends who you ask.
Do you feel angry at the author if they kill the person you’ve come to care for? I read an Angela Hunt book where this happened. Though I loved the story, I felt the loss almost ruined the experience. Like a real-world happily ever after as opposed to the one we really want.
I’ve read a few books where a character’s death really bothered me. One of them was a series (that’s still being added to) where one of the main and well-loved characters was killed off at the end of the 13th book in the series! Talk about losing a character you’re attached to. I do understand why she did it – and as a way to keep throwing her poor characters into difficult situations, it was probably a good decision, but I’m not sure I’ve gotten over it yet
Kaye, If you get the ION channel, they are having a Criminal Minds marathon Memorial Day- I feel a Thomas Gibson fix on it way
It is one of the few channels I still get (now that I’m on broadcast-only, no longer paying for cable)—however, I have the first six seasons on DVD, so I can marathon whenever I want, and without commercials! (Of course, this weekend, I’ll be working on the revisions/edits to Follow the Heart, so dear TG will have to wait . . .)